I don’t know if it’s a male thing, or maybe an immature male who calls himself a man, but isn’t yet a man and still a boy. I don’t really want to make things gender biased, but hey welcome to the real world where women and men are separated by their gender and capabilities. I have nothing against “men” or the “male species”, but this is just from experience. Why do males not communicate? Especially in relationships. I understand that many of them do not open up, but if you’re in a relationship that is built through layers of foundation and communicating was part of the key factor in starting this relationship, why can’t you communicate when the relationship needs saving or when you’re ending it?
I have seen many males walk away from a relationship without saying ANYTHING. And I don’t know if it’s an ego thing or you’re trying to distance yourself from the situation or you feel like if I avoided this situation and just walk away without saying ANYTHING, the situation will just go away. Well hate to tell you boys, but things don’t work like that. EVERY relationship requires communication, whether it’s a relationship built on love or friendships, or work related, let me repeat… EVERY RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES COMMUNICATION.
You don’t “walk away” from a situation and think things are over. If you’re in a long-term relationship, no scratch that, if you are in a relationship with someone, that person that you shared your months and years with deserves an explanation. They’re not someone you just picked up from the street, they are someone that you SHARED many memories with and exchanged “I love you’s” and promises that you gave; promises that should’ve been accomplished, but is broken by your immatureness.
Do I sound mad? Of course. Why? Because I know the feeling. The feeling of getting left without any sign of word and I know that “silence” is the answer as well, but again, a relationship wasn’t built on silence, and therefore an explanation is required. And boys, just because you walk away from a situation and think that it’s over, it’s not. And if you think walking away means breaking up, then your ass shouldn’t even be in a committed relationship in the first place.
If you DON’T want this relationship anymore, you have every right to speak the truth and tell the girl. Yes, it may hurt her, but at least she has closure and she knows the answer. When you walk away without saying anything to the girl that you spent months and years with, that is not only disrespectful, but she isn’t at peace with herself, with you and the relationship.
So, are you a boy or a man? Because if you call yourself a man, then you freaking grow some damn balls and speak up!