It’s nearly 2am here and you know my passion for love comes at this time. I enjoy the aspect of “love” – everything from human behaviour to how the other person can make you feel. Now we all know I had a hard time accepting what has happened and had a hard time letting go of my previous relationship. But right now, at this moment in time, I am happy to say that I am doing fine and is over him.
The reason I decided to write this post is that I just had a conversation with one of my friends and her relationship. She’s going through the healing process and have so many unanswered questions, exactly what I was going through. And she asked, “Why? Why would he do this to me?” and in response, I said, “I know it hurts and I know it sucks, and I know he should’ve handled it better. But if he wants to be with you, he will”.
Like damn, why couldn’t I say that to myself back then?
But I get it, I understand when:
- The person you love completely changes.
- The person you love does not contact you.
- The person you love did not say goodbye.
- The person you love made you hope for things.
- The person you love broke all their promises.
And there may be many more reasons, but what us females should realise is that it’s okay to be selfish too.
I’m 23 now and I’ve been in two serious relationships that I thought would’ve been forever (well one of them at least lol). I’m 23 and most of my friends are in long-term relationships, bought houses together, is married or have children. Do I feel the pressure? Of course. Why? Because that’s what I always wanted. But I can’t compare my chapter to theirs, regardless of our age.
What I’m saying is, if it’s meant to be it will be. And as much as that’s the life I want, I can’t force it to happen. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen, and if it doesn’t? Then that’s just the way it’s going to be.
If I happen to meet a good partner within the next few months, then cool. We can grow together.
If I happen to meet a good partner within the next year, then even better. I can work on myself and be ready to grow with them.
If I happen to meet a good partner a few years from now, that’ll be even better. I can work on myself, get my career on track and be ready to grow with them.
Either way, life is going to happen.
So please don’t waste your time waiting for someone that clearly doesn’t care about you.
“If he wants to be with you, he will.”